Nicole Dollanganger - He Hit Me (And It Felt Like A Kiss) Lyrics

You can settle the debate about whether this song is actually about abuse by looking up what the songwriters said about it. (100% it's about a real girl who was beaten by her boyfriend and told Carole King that he only did it because he loved her." Not a kink thing, not technically sexual abuse, just good old domestic violence. Still a great song though. We have horror movies, why not horror music?

Moses Leader Arletemetmos

youre all fucking dumb like its still roleplaying abuse, and sex doesnt exist outside of everything else that goes on in life. theres a reason people like being slapped and thrown around and spat on in the bedroom. something in their life is making them want to be hurt. i dont give a fuck what people do in the bedroom but ppl crave that kind of treatment for a reason and its really fucking weird to cap and say theres no parallels between abuse and playing at abusing your partner, and to say "but she asked for it" at every chance you can. people do this shit with sex work and girls just sexualising themself in general. its not always black and white/ a chance to be a good example

Some of y’all think being kinky is the same as having a personality and it shows

I like this song, but as a kinky person, I feel like her sampling a song about actual physical abuse sent the wrong message. Otherwise, it would be perfect without the sample. An ode to kinksters everywhere, I guess.

A song for the masochists

So many normies in these comments.

Its a complicated one. I've never been into the whole spanking thing, despite being very into BDSM and generally pretty kinky, spanking is one of those things that is either a strong yes or no with no inbetween in my experience. However I like how unashamedly positive and affectionate she portrays things.

On the other hand, I think using a horribly dark song about domestic abuse as the basis, and attempting to reclaim its main lyric - "he hit me and it felt like a kiss" - she ends up linking her kink affirming, sex positive song with domestic abuse and considering that's a common opinion among vanilla normies, that all BDSM is inherently abusive or is only practised by damaged abused people, I'm not quite sure this comes off right. I think that link is a little too strong for it to completely work. But I doubt she realised that at the time.

All the same, I do love this song and Nicole in general. Just not sure it's quite 100% successful in what she's trying to do.

This song makes me nostalgic ..
Now I'm crying great

Lyrics~

He hit me and it felt like a kiss 
He spanked me as I laid over his leg 
He put me on one knee and said 
"Sweetie I'll make this cute bum red" 
And then he hit me and I was glad 

Walked over in my knee highs and sat in his lap 
Smiled wide for him and purred like a little cat 
He said "Tell me what you want me to do 
Anything I will" 
So I told him to treat me like I'd been a real bad girl 

I got down on my hands and my knees 
He said, "Yeah you're a real bad girl 
Who needs punishing" 
I pouted like a child and gave him puppy eyes 
He gave my ass a few more slaps 
And made me apologize

99% of comments: *soMe Of Us ArE MasoChIsTS UwuUuwuw*
1% of comments: actually saying “vanilla” shit

Y a l l chill.
If you think you think this is over the top think, honey you got a big storm comin’
😂

what the fuck-

Take a shot everytime you read the word "vanilla" in the comment section. You claim to be flavorful and yet offer zero originality. Hypocrites and kinky wannabe's. Kindly go die.

Anal much?

foolish vanillas don't understand us masochists

True, cringe. Don't do us like that.

Pls explain what this means 😭🙌🏽

why is everyone here so vanilla lmao how boring

They are kinda boring

oh so y’all are VANILLA vanilla in the comment section

🙊 one of my favorite songs ever😉💖😂

This IS NOT about sexual abuse, and stop kink shaming.

KINK SHAMING IS MY KINK, anyone remember that vine reference? Nope, just me...ok...

May Robinson omg I was waiting for somebody to mention the vine lmao 😂

KINK SHAMING IS MY KINK

at least this version

I feel like people saying it's kinkshaming aren't exactly taking into consideration the history of toxic relationships and abuse Nicole seems to have had in her life. This song is definitely consensual, but what got her there likely wasn't.

Not in mY CHRISTIAN FAMILYVSBDSHS

LANA DEL REY ULTRAVIOLENCE

This has nothing to do with Lana Del Rey or Ultraviolence.

@Kay Lana Del Rey uses the same Crystals lyric on that song. So while not directly related, they do share the line "He hit me (and it felt like a kiss)".

*Jared vocie* kInKy

trash vampire NIOCE A DEH FAN

omy yes

Guys, this isn't about sexual abuse. This is indeed about kinky sex. She asked for it. She's singing about it, she's happy about it, she's glad. This isn't about sexual abuse.

Whiffle Geeks Yeah, I know

laneve ty I'm gonna be honest, I didn't realize that until she said "treat me like if been a real bad girl" I was actually uncomfortable until then

so abuse is okay as long as its consensual because then that makes it bdsm? :thinking:

niewiem bdsm isn’t abuse. you can’t consent to abuse. 0__0 sadomasochistic kinks have existed for a VERY long time, and there is nothing wrong with them as long as they are practiced with safety, mindfulness, and consent.

April Zaczkowski y’all weird man. i knew it was abt bdsm the second she said “he spanked me as i laid over his leg.” u don’t have to like the song btw, i don’t like this song either (cuz her voice is too jarring for me not cause of the lyrics) but it’s clearly about consensual kink and Not.. abuse!

*Straight CHEESE*

OKAY THESE ARE P EMBARRASSING ;w;

All these people complaining about vanilla people and shit and yeah this song is kinda kinky but it could be about sexual abuse... Lol sorry that there are certain traumas people can't forget but you know whatever do you.

a song for the masochists

this is so fucking kinky i love it

K i n k

Kinda...... kinky...... #ddlg xD

There are so many vanillas here, oh you precious things.

you poor souls

LMAO WTF

This is about BDSM, yes. However, it is also about how abusive the relationship was without her even realizing.

but she asked for it

Actually the intro song by The Crystals is about abuse. But Nicole made her own version of it in the form of BDSM. Which is kinky so do your research before bashing people music and lifestyles please. Thank you.

As someone who has actually been sexually abused I just wanna say that BDSM and DDLG stuff doesn't really romanticize any of the stuff that actually goes on in sexual abuse, none of the secrecy and all the bad memories I have tend to come back until y'all fucks start throwing it around. If anything the daddy thing seems weird but tbh after someone sexually abuses you they're not your dad anymore. Y'all need to chill the fuck out. Let people be kinky if they want it's their own damn life.

bless this comment

So many vanilla people in the comments. Some of us are kinky, get over it

love your name

damn right you're cringy

Lmao you're probably 13 sit down

all the scandalized people here make me laugh

uhh… well then 😳😳😳😳

can someone explain how its about abuse other than the title cause im...stupid and im curious

Stuart Pot it's no abuse its bdsm she wanted it and she gave him consent

The intro is from a song that was about domestic abuse but the rest isn’t

this feels like... child sexual abuse...

I mean, to me this sounds like an amazing relationship, being punished like the bad little girl I am? I'd be in love.

Amélie J they're are both adults and it is bdsm she gave him consent

that's called being mentally ill

Amélie J also where did you get a child from this

You’re the real fucked up person if you hear this and think of child sex abuse

The comment section is full of scandalized vanillas

Right? It's like people don't understand this is what every little masochist wants.

yknow like, tepid legumes haha true

yknow like, tepid legumes Yes!

But, what?

I'm as far from vanilla as you can get but spanking is really not for me all the same (both me and my ex partner were into kink and hated spanking, so I'm guessing it's a thing) and I'm really not completely comfortable with her taking a fairly nasty song about domestic abuse and trying to turn it into a positive thing - like I think "he hit me and it felt like a kiss" is a very disturbing sentiment that hits a raw nerve and I have some reservations about her trying to recontextualise that phrase *and* I don't like how by doing that she links BDSM/kink with domestic abuse, which is something that many ill informed vanilla people do already and I feel like she didn't think about that aspect (but Nicole has expressed reservations about this song, I'm guessing that maybe why).

Having said that, I cannot believe people thought this was somehow about a negative sexual experience or sexual abuse. It's very clearly positive and consensual. It's a valiant attempt to reclaim a nasty, dark song as something empowering, sex positive and kink affirming. I'm not sure it's an entirely successful attempt but hey, I'm hear listening to it for the 8th time or so, so clearly it's got something.

❤️❤️❤️

...So kinky Oml ._.

.//. oh...

this, confirmed, is about how people appropriate abuse. yall are disgusting

Chris Keller she wanted it though "treat me like I've been a real bad girl" bdsm is all about consent and she give him consent

Chris Keller what more fo you need to know

the original song is about abuse,but this song is about consensual kinky sex.

no its a ddlg or bsdm kink. calm ya self
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Chris Keller Its not abuse if its consensual. She asked for it, and that's what BDSM is. I would know, I'm a kinky little son of a bitch.

How the hell do y'all think this shit is kinky.

most of y'all probably don't even know what kinky means.

and isn't this a song about abuse.

sadism and masochism. Gaining sexual pleasure through pain or giving someone pain

Ddlg ☺️🍭🍼

the original is about the lead singer of the crystals finding out that their family friend and babysitter was abusing her daughter but their daughter mistook it as a form of love because she was only little

PANDAS Rule. M

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I have read some kinky ass shit but this is taking it as far as a bottom with a size kink. Jesus fuck.

i would say this is sexual abuse but she like asked for it?? this is hella kinky

Fatal Venom it's not sexual abuse, it's called being a masochist. there are do many people who like pain like this.

I can confirm this is as a masochist. Sometimes bad girls need to be hit...

THIS IS SO KINKY

just like......sangwoo and yoonbum killing stalking.....

thank go d i thought you weren't joking for a second

hirose No it's not

Shut up weeb

No but seriously I found this song from a Killing Stalking playlist-

this is kinky as fuck 😂😂

.......Um sexual abuse??? -.-

Chara Dreemur no

+VoluntaryApnea
This isn't abuse... This is a BDSM relationship...

Like, being punished by my master is what I live for.

Chara Dreemur nope

lmao no

ok this is so kinky

Lana Del Rey "he hit me and it felt like a kiss*

g0ldy this wasn't made by Lana Del Rey,

Ahhh same

ULTRAVIOLENCEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE