Carter, Grace - Why Her Not Me Lyrics






I feel your ghost, smell you all over my clothes
Oh, all your smoke's stuck in me longer then you did
I had my doubts, I had to check it all out
And now I see that you've run back when I thought you'd quit

You took my air out of your lungs
So you could breathe with another one

Oh, tell me, why her not me?
What did I do for you to wreck it all?
Oh, Lord, it's not my fault
Why her not me?
Why did you have to build the walls so high?
Oh no, I'm not done climbing

She heard about me, and all your history
I'm not tryna burn myself but I can let it go
Piece by piece uncovering dishonesty
Never been true than anything I've ever known

Finding out I'm not the only one
Took the air right out of my lungs

Oh, tell me, why her not me?
What did I do for you to wreck it all?
Oh Lord, it's not my fault
Why her not me?
Why did you have to build the walls so high?
Oh no, I'm not done climbing

Tell me, why her?
You give her unconditional love
Tell me, why her?
But I'm still climbing
Tell me, why her?
You gave me conditional love
Tell me, why her?
I won't stop fighting

No, no, no
I won't lay low, low, low
You gave my soul, soul, soul
I'm not giving in, no
No, no, no
I won't lay low, low, low
I've done no wrong, wrong, wrong
I'm not giving in, no

Why her not me?
What did I do for you to wreck it all?
Oh Lord, it's not my fault
Why her not me?
Why did you have to build the walls so high?
Oh Lord, I'm not done climbing

Tell me, why her?
You give her unconditional love
Tell me, why her?
But I'm still climbing
Tell me, why her?
You gave me conditional love
Tell me, why her?
I won't stop fighting





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  1. T.... D....

    This song made me choke up :(

  2. P.... R....

    Who else is here cause of love and hip hop

  3. K.... P....

    Here after Love and hip hop Miami 2020!

  4. a.... ....

    To anyone who may need it ❤️


    A FORGIVING MOMENT

    Don't try to forgive.
    Forgiveness is not a 'doing'.
    Simply accept that this moment is exactly the way it is right now.
    And the past was the way it was.
    Accept your non-acceptance in the present.
    Forgive your inability to forgive.
    Feel your breath, the sensations in your body, the life that burns brightly in you.

    Everyone is doing their best, even when it seems like they are doing their worst.
    Everyone is dreaming or having a nightmare, battling with pain you may never understand.
    You don't have to condone their actions.
    You may not be able to wake them up.
    You don't have to like what happened.
    Simply let go of the illusion
    that it could have been any different.
    You are different now, anyhow.
    Don't focus on something
    you have no control over.
    The past is a distant land.

    Bring your attention back to this moment,
    Your source of true power.
    Your place of connectedness.

    Wake up from the dream
    That anyone has any power
    To take away your inner peace.

    Drop the need to be right.
    Embrace the need to be free.
    Come out of the story of 'my life'.
    Reclaim the moment.

    Be here, in your new life.
    Show up for this brand new day.

    This is forgiveness.

    - Jeff Foster

  5. R.... R....

    she eerie sounds like Dua Lipa, lyrics deep as Sia but looks like Alicia Keys and Amanda Seales... damn ...

  6. S.... B....

    Love and hiphop brought me here.

  7. z.... ....

    Love and hip hop miami ?

  8. l.... c....

    Man YouTube need to stop the B.S you cant even see the ending with those stupid suggested videos in the way

  9. C.... J....

    My family made me feel less then what it am i told me not one will ever love me but i have someone that makes me so happy and loved

  10. R.... A....

    I feel this on the level of a man leaving me for another women and my dad leaving me too. Double whammy

  11. E.... T....

    whats with the video pop ups at the end, i cant see who is in the window

  12. I.... w....

    My lil sister passed from breast cancer 2018 I have custody of her beautiful daughter and I want to dedicate this to her. Its not her fault. What a beautiful song

  13. A.... T....

    Love and hip-hop Miami brought me here

  14. H.... L....

    So amazing song

  15. R.... S....

    👍if lhh Miami bought you here

  16. A.... 2....

    Love And Hip Hop Miami 2020 Bought Me Here. Thank You 🙌🏾🙌🏾 Beautiful Song

  17. Y.... A....

    Sia it's industry but Faouzia its morrocan big talent

  18. J.... S....

    She keep walking on the same path

  19. T.... M....

    Cuz he’s a black dad

  20. T.... H....

    I feel your ghost, smell you all over my clothes
    Oh, all your smoke's stuck in me longer then you did
    I had my doubts, I had to check it all out
    And now I see that you've run back when I thought you'd quit
    You took my air out of your lungs
    So you could breathe with another one
    Oh tell me, why her, not me?
    What did I do for you to wreck it all?
    Oh Lord, it's not my fault
    Why her, not me?
    Why did you have to build the walls so high?
    Oh no, I'm not done climbing
    She heard about me, and all your history
    I'm not tryna burn myself but I can't let it go
    Piece by piece, uncovering dishonesty
    Never been truth in anything I've ever known
    Finding out I'm not the only one
    Took the air right out my lungs
    Oh tell me, why her, not me?
    What did I do for you to wreck it all?
    Oh Lord, it's not my fault
    Why her, not me?
    Why did you have to build the walls so high?
    Oh no, I'm not done climbing
    Tell me, why her?
    You gave her unconditional love
    Tell me, why her?
    But I'm still climbing
    Tell me, why her?
    You gave me conditional love
    Tell me, why her?
    I won't stop fighting
    No, no, no
    I won't lay low, low, low
    You gave my soul, soul, soul
    I'm not giving in, no
    No, no, no
    I won't lay low, low, low
    I've done no wrong, wrong, wrong
    I'm not giving in, no
    Why her, not me?
    What did I do for you to wreck it all?
    Oh Lord, it's not my fault
    Why her, not me?
    Why did you have to build the walls so high?
    Oh no, I'm not done climbing
    Tell me, why her?
    You gave her unconditional love
    Tell me, why her?
    But I'm still climbing
    Tell me, why her?
    You gave me conditional love
    Tell me, why her?
    I won't stop fighting

  21. G.... ....

    this song hits me both ways. never in my life meeting my father and finding out through others that he has another family raising his two sons. and meeting my soulmate but him falling in love and choosing another woman.

  22. A.... L....

    What a voice!! ❤❤❤

  23. h.... b....

    Why em not only me.
    Falling for a few boy be like lol

  24. a.... a....

    They all sound the same and look the same these days. Seems you only have to be mixed race to get signed these days🙄😏

  25. P.... d....

    💚💐💚

  26. A.... I....

    It's a question of billions of people on earth.

  27. T.... ....

    As a mother to a 4year old beautiful little girl, this song hurts because I know this is the kind of painful journey my daughter will go through and all I can do is be the Best mom I can be and be there for her. 😔❤

  28. N.... A....

    Omg I love her outfit. The red jacket is so hoooot.

  29. S.... s....

    I thought this song was about a boy I didn't know it was about her father

  30. O.... e....

    I wish one day I could talk about you like she did
    Because I want to get over you and be the person I deserve to be

  31. A.... S....

    Same feels and wounds but different story. Abandoned, me and my siblings by both parents that divorced and chose themselves over their kids. We were fostered by relatives who only wanted paychecks of social services.

  32. M.... ....

    I love in that area

  33. N.... M....

    Where's my dad?😂😅😭

  34. f.... s....

    Those dislikes 🙄

  35. f.... ....

    walking simulator ?

  36. N.... N....

    This is a really powerfull music video until that other mv ad completely blocked the screen and we cant see what happen in the end. Ngl im pissed bro.

  37. T.... O....

    Ain’t that girl from eastenders lol

  38. P.... ....

    I wish I had grown up with a dad and mum. I would have been a wonderful person, a lot less troubled than now. This song is beautiful.

  39. A.... S....

    the video cards pop up too soon to see the catch at the end of the video fyi. beautifully heartbreaking song and video, the anticipation kept me watching. well directed

  40. m.... k....

    i love her voice so much <3 and the melody it's really beautiful and feminine

  41. T.... D....

    It's what moving from foster home to foster home felt like to me.

  42. D.... L....

    This song hit hard. From the comments, I heard what it's based on and I empathise with her. Since my birth, I've had to deal with my father picking my siblings over me because I'm not afraid to tell him he doesn't treat my mother well. For my fourteenth birthday gift, he told me 'I might love you (even though that's becoming debatable) but I certainly don't have to like you and I don't like you.' He's always been there for my siblings and cherished them, never me. But I won't ask why because he doesn't deserve to believe I bother thinking of him.

  43. S.... M....

    I heard this a while ago in the supermarket and said Sh*t i HAVE to find this song!

  44. P.... B....

    Because everybody's trying to get me to choose so I won't choose I'm not going to be pushed I'm going to do what I want to do I don't need a woman to fulfill my energy my life the people in my life can do that so why choose people just keep making me hurt other people why without Fangs for anyone when I can hug the little ones and say f*** the grown-ups

  45. l.... o....

    He finally came into my life a year ago just to leave again.. why’d you raise her and not me?! Why do you love her and not me! You don’t deserve to get called dad. Danny. You might be my father but I’ll never ever consider you it. Maybe in another life..

  46. T.... ....

    the outfits in this are soo nice

  47. S.... L....

    WHEN I READ THE TITLE OF THIS SONG I THOUGHT ABOUT THAT ONE SONG FROM SHREK THE MUSICAL

  48. S.... A....

    This song hits different
    And is not getting the recognition it deserves.
    Things like this should trend not girls in bikinis and automobiles

  49. N.... A....

    HEY YOU! Yes, you, sitting behind your screen reading this. I don't know you and you certainly don't know me. But I want to tell you something. Everyone has their own story. Yours might be filled with joy and happiness, or it might be clouded with pain and misfortune. I want you to know that you're a beautiful, wonderful, talented person. Even if your life isn't going the way you want it to right now, I know that you'll be able to make it out alright. I want you to do me a favor. I know I'm just a stranger, but just trust me, okay? Every time you see your reflection, be it in the mirror in the bathroom, in a window somewhere, or in a puddle on the street, I want you to look at yourself and give yourself a hug. Because even if you aren't the prettiest or the smartest or the funniest, you're something that no one else can be: you. And you are the greatest thing you can be. Smile at strangers. Be confident in yourself. Cry when you feel like crying, laugh when you feel like laughing. Treat yourself like a god/goddess because you deserve it. Hold your head up and keep your heart open. You're worth everything and then some. And always remember that no matter what, even if it doesn't seem like it, you're everything to someone

  50. l.... g....

    The ads blocking the end shot are disrespectful to this beautiful song😪

  51. A.... A....

    No, don't stop fighting... for YOURSELF! Fk dudes who take the easier option & way out.

  52. K.... A....

    Who also notices the small looks like grace Carter?🤔

  53. M.... J....

    How can´t this be bigger it's so amazing! I feel like this voice could be so good with the deep high notes.

  54. O.... E....

    its so emotional for me 💔tell me why your songs aren't on tops?

  55. j.... ....

    YouTube ruins the end of every video! I cannot see the most critical scenes because they want me to choose the next one already!

  56. B.... ....

    Everyone born today is better off than someone born decades before on average in the US. Anyone born in the West is coming from privilege.

  57. S.... ....

    oh so beautiful .

  58. E.... A....

    Well look at you now . He should be proud of you !

  59. Z.... N....

    a child staring down from heaven who never got to see the light of day could ask the same question. looking down and seeing mom and dad having other children, whilst she was aborted at full term. why them not me?


    #everylifematters.

  60. G.... ....

    this is too good . im so glad i found this

  61. S.... S....

    “Never been truth in anything I’ve ever known” I felt that and the way her face looked for a split second when she sang “ever known” in the video hurt me

  62. K.... W....

    [Verse 1]
    I feel your ghost, smell you all over my clothes
    Oh, all your smoke's stuck in me longer then you did
    I had my doubts, I had to check it all out
    And now I see that you've run back when I thought you'd quit

    [Pre-Chorus]
    You took my air out of your lungs
    So you could breathe with another one

    [Chorus]
    Oh tell me, why her, not me?
    What did I do for you to wreck it all?
    Oh Lord, it's not my fault
    Why her, not me?
    Why did you have to build the walls so high?
    Oh no, I'm not done climbing

    [Verse 2]
    She heard about me, and all your history
    I'm not tryna burn myself but I can let it go
    Piece by piece uncovering dishonesty
    Never been truth in anything I've ever known

    I won't stop fighting

    [Pre-Chorus]
    Finding out I'm not the only one
    Took the air right out my lungs

    [Chorus]
    Oh tell me, why her, not me?
    What did I do for you to wreck it all?
    Oh Lord, it's not my fault
    Why her, not me?
    Why did you have to build the walls so high?
    Oh no, I'm not done climbing

    [Post-Chorus]
    Tell me, why her?
    You gave her unconditional love
    Tell me, why her?
    But I'm still climbing
    Tell me, why her?
    You gave me conditional love
    Tell me, why her?


    [Bridge]
    No, no, no
    I won't lay low, low, low
    You gave my soul, soul, soul
    I'm not giving in, no
    No, no, no
    I won't lay low, low, low
    I've done no wrong, wrong, wrong
    I'm not giving in, no

    [Chorus]
    Why her, not me?
    What did I do for you to wreck it all?
    Oh Lord, it's not my fault
    Why her, not me?
    Why did you have to build the walls so high?
    Oh no, I'm not done climbing

    [Post-Chorus]
    Tell me, why her?
    You gave her unconditional love
    Tell me, why her?
    But I'm still climbing
    Tell me, why her?
    You gave me conditional love
    Tell me, why her?
    I won't stop fighting

    https://genius.com/Grace-carter-why-her-not-me-lyrics

  63. J.... ....

    good lord this is a good song

  64. p.... u....

    I was about to say i would send this song to my dad who left me and my brothers to be with another woman but fuck him.

  65. J.... O....

    Love her voice

  66. D.... N....

    Can relate with this song

  67. M.... B....

    This song sounds a little like ashes from Celine Dion

  68. I.... M....

    I can relate..

  69. K.... ....

    why did i just saw this now????

  70. S.... ....

    She has such a great voice, unfortunately it sometimes sounds like she's holding herself back.

    S.... ....

    Simon honestly should look up live vids of her! She’s insane, and defo doesn’t hold back then x

  71. T.... D....

    I wonder what she sounds like when she’s walking.

  72. K.... M....

    Can relate to this so much. The hurt... This might be my new anthem

  73. S.... B....

    I really like this song, but does anyone get fire and ashes vibes?

  74. C.... D....

    The video is about her dad starting a new family and the final scene, with her staring into his home at night, alone on the outside, just kills me.

  75. s.... s....

    linda demais a grace ❤😍

  76. E.... ....

    😘😘😘😭💞💞💞💓💓💓 your so talented I love you.

  77. G.... ....

    she has no better angle, she looks perfect in all of them.

  78. A.... L....

    When I first heard this song it hit home with me so hard. Growing up not having my dad around because he just couldn't get his shit together. He's been in and out of my life since I was 3 or 4. He had another life outside of me and I have half sisters and brothers that I will probably never really know about.
    I just turned 30 in October, getting a phone call a few weeks after my birthday that he was found unresponsive and died.... it's just so hard to know that I couldn't say goodbye. I made things right with him years back but it still doesn't make it hurt any less. I'm next of kin so I've had to be the responsible one and take care of everything, with the help of my mom and family. I feel like since I couldn't help him while he was here, this is the only thing I could do for him :'(
    I wouldn't be where I am and who I am though if it wasn't for my mom who raised me right and my stepdad who stepped up.

  79. K.... O....

    Amazing song

  80. L.... ....

    Anyone else have recommended videos pop up so that you miss the final scene?

  81. M.... M....

    Ebru Gündeş'e benziyor la :D

  82. R.... G....

    Am i crazy or do i hear a Little Rita ora in her voice?

  83. e.... p....

    I like her modest clothes. Very humble

  84. S.... D....

    Just watching this video in 2019 and it makes so much sense why this song touched me from Day 1....wow

  85. D.... ....

    yessssss

  86. J.... C....

    My dad kicked me out of my house when I was in the 4th grade, sees me only when he feels like it, stopped loving me, and decided to raise his girlfriend’s daughter over his own. And I think I really needed to hear this. Especially the part that says it’s not my fault. Because it wasn’t.. it was not my fault my dad decided to abandon me. I am a girl worth love, and he wasn’t strong enough or good enough to give it to me. Thank you for this song❤️

    J.... C....

    keep your head up you're doing great

    J.... C....

    I’m so so sorry 💔

    J.... C....

    God gives the hardest battles to those he knows are strong enough to fight! God bless you <3

    J.... C....

    You are worth way more than just love! You are precious in the eyes of your heavenly father and he will never ever forsake you! It's not your fault but instead his DEVASTATING LOSS to not be able to raise such a precious angel from heaven! You!!! That's what you are! I say this because as a single father of 21 years and 1 little girl, I could have left and not stayed, but I chose to be the greatest father on earth to the greatest gift I have ever received! I'm proud to be her daddy, and my daughter knows her worth. She was my gift and my thanks to God for my gift was loving her unconditionally and making sure she was always my #1! Always! Never having to share me with anyone! You deserved that too. It's not your fault! You are still the greatest gift...always. Sending love hope happiness compassion and more love.

  87. A.... M....

    She so beautiful

  88. w.... ....

    Clever video. Love this sad song with a little hope.

  89. J.... B....

    I love dis song....

  90. B.... m....

    Literally crying while listening to this song i can feel the pain... i dont even know who is my real father

  91. A.... S....

    am i the only one who is reminded of adele

  92. A.... O....

    So inspired

  93. A.... S....

    I can't even see the ending with all those big ass suggested videos at the end! Honestly who thought of that interface?!!

    A.... S....

    Pull the video down a bit and you'll see it

    A.... S....

    Maddy Lestrange oh my god.. THANK YOU!!!!! SO !!! MUCH!!!!!!!!!!! You don’t understand how much this has been a problem in my life and your the FIRST PERSON WITH A WORKING ANSWER THANK YOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

    A.... S....

    They did that with the new Whitney Houston music video for higher love and I couldn’t understand what happened for months because of it I really wish I could call YouTube and seriously (tbh) yell at whoever thought that was a good idea

    A.... S....

    If u hold the screen like ur zooming in, the other videos go away until u let go

    A.... S....

    If u like kind of pull the screen down like your existing out of the video to look at more options the pop ups will go away

  94. l.... ....

    I can't believe I'm hearing this for the first time a whole year after it was released. What a powerful song.

    l.... ....

    Same here

  95. K.... E....

    I read what the song is about, its pretty sad. Reminds me of my wifes mother who jumped ship on her when she was just 4, it's left a hole in her life that every now and again needs filling with love. I'd just like to say it's great you've turned your misfortune into something beautiful. This is an outstanding track Grace, thank you.

  96. A.... S....

    I was raised by a single parent and that parent was my father. I can somewhat relate to song. I didn't grow up with a mother (and I can't blame her. She suffered from a mental illness). I was always searching for a mother figure and I never really found it. I always hung out with girls that had their mother and constantly complain about how unfair she was and I'm here wishing I had my mother in my life.

  97. B.... ....

    "Why her not me?"
    Honest answer? He was never in love and maybe only valued the physical intimacy of the connection because he was using you to supplement the addictive attachment he had with another. You were the rebound. People are self serving and entitle themselves to treat others in a manner like this because they also lack accountability. Others let themselves get treated like this because they lack self preservation due to being conditioned to be more considerate of others than of themselves. I was the latter. I was in this situation. I was also naive. People aren't good. People aren't bad. People are just good to themselves and bad to others or good to others and bad to themselves. We can try and create balance but we always are this or that in one context or in another.

    B.... ....

    I hope there was no physical intimacy with her dad...

    B.... ....

    @runfaithful Unfortunately there was ... hence the trauma as an adult.

  98. F.... ....

    So good

  99. R.... R....

    I love this song so much I keep coming back...